trans-PARENT-cy 1 CORINTHIANS 5:11 DO NOT: Associate or eat with people who are: Sexually immoral Greedy Idolater Slanderer Drunkard Swindler
I realize my following comments may offend some on both sides of these issues. Including some of my Christian friends and I apologize to all that I have unintentionally offended. I may someday change my mind, but at this time, this is the direction I chose to go. I want to be transparent about where I stand as a Christian regarding those in the LGBTQ community. I want to be able to explain what I believe and why I believe it. 1 PETER 3:15 But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.
Why am I writing this? I have several concerns. First, I want ALL people to be treated equally, respectfully and with unconditional love. Second, the safety and well-being of children is one of my highest priorities. There seems to be a push for gender treatments of children. Much of that push includes bias and misinformation by both sides. There are reports that the pioneer and basis for such treatment (Dutch Protocol) was weak and flawed. European countries have been doing this much longer than the U.S. Therefore, they have a much longer track record of data. After investigations and over 60 systematic reviews, many including the British Journal of Medicine, are determining that there is great uncertainty regarding cross sex medical interventions in kids and that the risks of such treatments for those under 18 may outweigh the benefits. If there is great uncertainty. That would seem to indicate that permanent treatments for what is very often a temporary condition, are too often, medical experiments on children.
To protect children and provide parents with very important information. The medical community, the media and our government leaders need to be transparent about all the options, side effects and risks of trans treatments for children.
Since I KNOW I can NOT cast the FIRST STONE. Then I choose to LOVE All people including those in the list above and those in the LGBTQ community as Jesus does. And ALL including LGBTQ who intend no harm to my family, friends, loved ones or myself are welcome in my home and at my dinner table. And I will welcome and help you thrive to the best of my ability as part of any organization or team that I am a part of. And you are always welcome to join me attending Church. I have known and still know too many gays that are hardworking, responsible, wonderful people. Many who are nicer and more loving than some Christians. And I will not selectively use text from the Bible as an excuse to judge or exclude them from my life. JOHN 8:7They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said to them, Let who is without sin among you, cast the first stone at her.
We are called to love God, ourselves, our neighbors and our enemies. That means that on September 12, 2001, were expected to love Osama Bin Laden. That does not mean we were to love his harmful behavior or actions. And we are not expected to love our own sinful actions and behaviors if they are harmful to ourselves or others. We should hate all sinful actions and behaviors, especially our own.
Let me be clear. I am NOT condoning, supporting, affirming or encouraging gay behavior. But I know I am guilty of sinful behavior and I would consider it hypocrisy for me to judge others for their sins. However, I do choose to draw a line at behavior that I consider harmful to women and children. 1 CORINTHIANS 13:6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7)It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Because I am very concerned about the well-being of children, including those that are gay and or trans. One of my concerns is that many are getting permanent cross sex treatments that they later regret. There are studies that indicate that a large percentage of gay children especially boys, report feeling lonely and isolated, much of this caused by the shunning of those who condemn and refuse to respect, welcome, accept and love gay people. In an effort to end loneliness and despair, some children turn to trans treatments as a possible way out because they do not want to be gay. In fact, one of the leading countries in the world for trans gender treatments is Iran. Largely because being gay or attracted to same sex in many Muslim countries is so strictly forbidden, that many chose to medically switch to the opposite sex.
It is very sad that so many avoid or leave church and Christianity because they have met a Christian. Too many Christians chose to stay in a Christian bubble avoiding association with anybody they feel is outside of the that bubble. If the GREAT COMMISSION calls us to GO, lead others to Christianity and salvation. How can we do that without showing love to lost sheep. We need to venture out amongst lost sheep or allow them to venture amongst us enough to allow them to taste and see the love of Jesus. MATTHEW 28:19Therefore go an make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
I know I can NOT claim to be above those sins listed in I Corinthians 5:11. I also know that I commit many of the so called 7 deadly sins. And depending on how it is defined, I may resemble all of those sins at some time or another. Lord knows that I have many past regrets. While homosexuality and crossdressing are sin according to the Bible. I will not judge another for their sins. I know I have temptations and sins that I pray about daily, that I sometimes give into. Lord knows I have often in the past and still occasionally am an idolater of food and give in to gluttony and therefore I should not be associated with. I also have occasionally been less than 100% sober. While I don’t consider being a little buzzed or tipsy the same as being a drunkard, in my mind, there is room to interpret any consumption of alcohol as sin, as one who should not be associated with. To say that another’s sin is greater than mine, therefore I can raise myself to the level of deciding they are unwelcome to associate with me or attend my Church, reminds me of the Pharisee that condemned the tax collector. Jesus said the tax collector, a swindler, would be exalted and the Pharisee would be humbled before God. Many Christians, some of whom are good friends, do disagree with my positions on this topic. I think that when Christians publicly disagree, conflict or engage in division over theology, it likely, pleases worldly and spiritual enemies and disappoints God. I think Christians may be better off focusing on salvation and heaven related theology. If I think I deserve heaven over the homosexual because I am heterosexual, then I am like the Pharisees. We are called to take others to heaven with us. I think we are more likely to take others to heaven with grace and love than with stones, judgement and hate. Christians do NOT get to heaven for being heterosexual or more sexually moral than the homosexual. Christians get to heaven for believing in Jesus regardless of our morality. The same applies to the homosexual. The most moral person on the planet is dreadfully sinful and falls short of the heaven that comes only through Jesus Christ. If a homosexual does not believe in Jesus Christ because of the way a Christian has treated them, I’d hate to think of where that leaves that Christian. And if a homosexual turns away from Jesus Christ because they let a Christian come between them and Jesus. Who is closer to Jesus, His salvation and His heaven? Only God knows. The great preacher Charles Spurgeon once wrote, “Have you no wish for others to be saved? Then you are not saved yourself”. LUKE 18:11The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: God I thank you that I am not like other people-robbers, evildoers, adulterers, or even this tax collector. LUKE 18:14I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.
The Pharisees complained and eventually crucified Jesus, partially for dining and associating with tax collectors (swindlers) and sinners.
While we should love ourselves and love others, I do not love my sinful behavior or the harm it may cause me or others. I will try my best to avoid giving into the temptation to love, flaunt, boast, affirm or celebrate my sinful behaviors. And I certainly hope I do not encourage or force others to participate in my sinful behaviors.
Sometimes our efforts to be tolerant and kind to one group results in the opposite to another group. Protecting children from harm, might mean that I am sometimes unintentionally or unavoidably offensive, unkind or intolerant to another group.
At this time, regarding LGBTQ issues. I chose to side with the biological females and stopping those that intend to cause a child to stumble. We have already allowed the Biblical promise of the rainbow to be misused. While few in the LGBTQ community intend harm to children. There is evidence of some attempting to misuse Proverbs 22:6 to target and teach children, while they are young, inappropriate, harmful, sinful behavior. MATTHEW 18:6But if anyone abuses one of these little ones who believes in me, it would be better for him to have a heavy bolder tied around his neck and be hurled into the deepest sea than to face the punishment he deserves. PROVERBS 22:6Direct your child onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.
There are credible reports of churches and schools giving young girls binders, helping children use a different name and social transition while deliberately hiding it from the parents. I would not want anybody teaching my children anything of sexual nature without my permission. I would much rather schools focus on fundamental academic education. With school choice. Perhaps both sides can be pleased with what their children are taught in school.
I don't think biological females should be forced to compete in sports against biological males. There are numerous reports of biological males, some with convictions for violence or sex crimes, identifying as female and then being sent to female prisons where they attack, rape and, impregnate, sometimes multiple biological female prisoners. That should not be happening. Biological females should not be required to use showers or other facilities where genitals may be exposed along with biological males. If genitals will not be exposed, I guess I do not care which bathroom a person uses, especially if they appear to be using the bathroom that matches their sex. The trans community will benefit if they avoid having bearded, manly looking people enter women’s, spaces where little girls are likely to be. This is a kinda tricky area. If a transman with a beard and other manly features who is a biological female enters a women’s bathroom where little girls are, many parents would be alarmed and or outraged.
Any legal adult who chooses to be LGBTQ is not my business or significant concern. However, I do not want my tax dollars paying for cosmetic, trans or elective surgery for prisoners or Government employees.
And I do not want my tax dollars spent on Drag shows especially in schools, military bases or foreign countries.
I do not think Trans surgery, puberty blockers or other gender altering drugs that may have permanent consequences should be glamorized, affirmed or encouraged for children. If a child expresses interest in such a lifestyle, perhaps with parental supervision and reliable medical counseling, allow them to participate in social transition and other trans behavior without engaging in permanent changes until science says the judgmental part of the brain is fully developed.
There are more and more cases and reports of children and adults later regretting permanent physical and biological changes. Some claim they made the permanent decisions based on trendy or societal misinformation. Regardless of how strongly a child feels that they want to make permanent biological and physical changes, strength of feeling is not a good indicator of permanence. It seems like waiting a few years till they are 18 or 21 should be better than the risk of spending the average life expectancy, regretting an irreversible decision, made by a mind too young to fully understand the entirety.
The Dutch were one of the pioneers in trans treatments of children around 1987. Dutch protocol, considered the GOLD STANDARD in trans treatments for children, has recently been widely criticized for using weak flawed studies, that hid some critical data to promote their continued standard of affirming care. They have been accused of using a very small study group of which one patient actually died. And it is reported that their study was funded by a company marketing some of the puberty blockers. The Gender Identity Development Service or GIDS followed close behind around 1989 and was part of Tavistock clinic in Britiain. Tavistock, the world’s largest pediatric gender clinic was recently shutdown. There are reports that they rolled out and continued gender treatments of children before their studies were completed. Britain and many other countries including Sweden, Finland, Norway, France, Belgium, Australia, New Zealand and Holland (where Dutch Protocol originated) that were on the leading edge of trans medical treatments and surgeries, have done a 180 and are pausing or putting strict restrictions on trans treatments for children. The Dutch have recently criticized the U.S. for it’s current standards for treating transgender children.
America is lagging in backing off on gender affirming care and trans treatments for children. America’s push for gender affirming care for children is leading to a rush of misinformation, mutilation and suffering of children. While some chose to roll the dice regarding children, I cannot be silent and chose to be transparent as I stand up for children.
At this time, I do not support a complete ban on gender treatments of children. I believe there may be some children who may need and benefit from such treatments. I do support restrictions that may include extensive counseling and at least a year of social transitioning BEFORE the use of any puberty blockers, hormones, surgery and any permanent or otherwise irreversible treatment. I do not consider extensive counseling to be conversion therapy any more than trans sex chemicals, drugs or surgery are conversion therapy. The threat of being called a transphobe or accused of conversion therapy has led to reports of doctors and parents socially transitioning children as young as 3, starting puberty blockers as young as 8, doing breast removal as young as 13 and cross sex hormones as young as 14. Many of these treatments that later lead to detransition treatments have too often been implemented with no mental health evaluation, basically a allowing a young child to self diagnose and make permanent irreversible changes based on the info and influences of social media.
As of early June 2023. The FDA had not yet approved the use of puberty blockers for gender dysphoria. In April of 2022, The FDA added a warning label to puberty blockers. Because there are reports of some puberty blockers causing side effects in some children that resemble brain tumor symptoms. Symptoms such as swelling and pressure inside the skull, eye paralysis, headaches, vomiting, optic nerve swelling, and vision disturbances in which patients see lights that do not exist. I’m no doctor. And I do not want to judge the decisions of parents and children especially when I have never stood in their shoes. I likely do not have a good understanding of what they are going through. But it is hard for me to imagine anyone especially children who are aware of these possible side effects, willfully consenting to the use of puberty blockers. And if a child is experiencing any of those symptoms, it seems like their judgement would likely be impaired. How is a person, especially a child, with impaired judgement, considered able to legally consent to anything with risk of severe harm. Credible sources claim that 90% of children that try puberty blockers advance to the next stage of trans treatments which is usually cross sex hormones. Many credible health experts and transexual people claim that neither puberty blockers or cross sex hormones are reversible. And once cross sex hormones are started, they often lead to a lifetime medical dependency on drugs and chemicals.
I am not trying to put down or make light of LGBTQ.
I realize there are people that encounter these situations with children within their family. I’m sure this is a very difficult situation for some parents and families that have children with gender dysphoria. And I do not wish to add to their struggle. But I also realize there are some making permanent physical changes to children too fast based on one sided info. Some of it possibly being pushed by big Pharma and those with ill intentions. There are more and more cases of young adults claiming they regret permanent trans changes. Some of these regretful changes are being caused by children being over exposed by LGBTQ info at too young of an age before the mind is adequately developed. Some of this may be being caused by over glamorization of LGBTQ, over sexualization and trendy social contagion. Some doctors are claiming that we are experiencing an epidemic of rapid-onset gender dysphoria. I encourage parents to keep their kids off social media. There are cell phone systems on the market such as GABB that allow talk, text and tracking but no internet or social media.
It is quite possible that drag shows in front of young children risk very serious confusion of young immature minds and risk opening a path for predators. While some drag shows may be tasteful or artful and most performers intend no harm, especially to children, there are phonies, predators and those with auto gynephilia that are pursuing their gross desires. Therefore, no children should attend drag shows without a parent present.
I intend to continue sharing info that addresses these issues from various perspectives and hopefully helps to make all the risks and options transparent. To try to help parents gather as much info as possible and protect children from such extreme drastic permanent changes that they may one day regret, after it is too late.
I support those that after careful consideration decide to make whatever trans changes especially as adults. However, I do believe there are no simple solutions to such complex situations when children are involved. Conversion therapy is cruel and should be illegal especially for children. Likewise for trans treatments of children. Many in the medical and trans community suggest an increased risk of suicides in children denied trans treatments. I have seen no credible studies that support such claims. I have read that 3 high ranking officials of WPATH have claimed there is no proof of increased risk of suicide without trans treatments and suggest flawed studies have been abused to pressure parents into consenting to treatment of children. Some parents feel they are being taken hostage by such coercive emotional terrorism. There are some studies that indicate a greater likelihood of self-harm after trans treatments. In the early years of doing trans treatments for adults, the Dutch noticed a high rate of mental struggles and suicide of biological males after completing transition to female. Believing that the mental struggles were being caused by the disappointment with the remaining masculine features after completing trans treatment. The Dutch theorized that if they had biological males that had gender dysphoria at a young age, they would put the child on puberty blockers to prevent natural masculine features from forming. Because of the puberty blockers, one youngster did not have enough penile tissue to form a surgically created vagina, so the doctors attempted to use a piece of the patients bowels, which resulted in a fatal infection. In recent years a growing number of countries have paused or banned trans treatments for children, some over 3 years ago, and so far there have been no increase in suicides or mental health issues. Finland and Sweden have placed strict limits on treatments for minors. A Sweden investigation concluded the risk of puberty blockers and hormones for those under 18, outweigh the benefits. There are some studies that indicate that as many as 80% of children that claim gender dysphoria eventually grow out of it. And the detransition community is growing rapidly. Close to 40,000 members in some reddit detrans groups. It seems that those that support affirming health care are much more affirming of trans than de-trans. Those in the detrans community are some of the most marginalized people, pretty much abandoned by the LGBTQ community.
Many cases of gender dysphoria are actually caused by adverse childhood experiences. ACE trauma may be better treated with counseling than trans treatments.
I suggest that before a parent allows a child to receive treatments that may cause irreversible, catastrophic harm, that they do lots and lots of research. Especially on potential side effects BEFORE the use of hormones, puberty blockers or surgery. There are credible reports that short term use of puberty blockers and chest binders, causing serious injuries and permanent changes and harm. Don’t trust anything I have written here. Information about trans treatments especially for children is often very biased and rapidly changing. The pediatric trans treatment of children is considered a medical experiment by many credible doctors. Too many children are being allowed to consent to treatments based on minimal information and large quantities of misinformation. Many health professionals claim that we are experiencing an epidemic of Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria, that as many as 80% of children would grow out of. However, if treatments such as puberty blockers or cross sex hormones are prematurely initiated, irreversible results, harm and a lifetime necessity for continued use of medication may occur.
I am not a theologian or Biblical scholar. And I am not a medical professional of any kind, What I have written here, is my opinion and belief based on my current understanding of these issue.
I intend to continue to follow the example of Jesus who often embraced and associated with sinners and outcasts. While doing so, He often commanded them to repent and discontinue their sin. However, there is no record of the tax collector giving up his sinful ways before he went home justified before God. The criminal that hung on a cross next to Jesus, admitted that he deserved to die for the sins that he committed and was sentenced to death on a cross. Because the criminal believed in Jesus, he was granted eternal life in heaven by the grace of Jesus, with no record of him discontinuing his sin. Just as Jesus stood in defense of children, and also offers grace to all of us. I intend to offer grace to all sinners while standing in defense of children. LUKE 23:40 But the other criminal protested, don’t you fear God even when you have been sentenced to die. We deserve to die for our crimes, but this man hasn’t done anything wrong, 42)Then he said, Jesus remember me when you come into your Kingdom. 43)And Jesus replied, I assure you, today you will be with me in paradise.
According to UCLA. As of 2016, an estimated 114,00 same sex couples were raising over 22,000 adopted and donor conceived biological children in very happy, healthy, loving homes. If we are not to associate with the sexually immoral. How do children of same sex couples, honor their mother and father.
Again, I encourage parents and people curious about trans treatments to do their own research.
You tube has many videos and testimonies by people such as BUCK ANGEL (A.K.A. TRANPA) and BLAIR WHITE that are living happy healthy trans lives.
There are also many testimonies on You Tube by people such CHLOE COLE and CHRIS BECK a Navy Seal that have experienced disastrous life destroying results.
There are videos by Doctors such as Jordan Peterson, Miriam Grossman and Lisa Littman that are very informative.
Hannah Barnes is an award winning BBC journalist. She did a deep investigation into the collapse of the Tavistock Clinic that reveals the many flaws in the standards of care regarding trans treatments of children. She has many very informative videos on YouTube.
Journalist Abigail Shrier, did a deep dive into the explosive rise in gender dysphoria among adolescent girls and wrote the best selling book IRREVERSIBLE DAMAGE. The book became a best seller even though many stores refused to put is on the shelf. She also has some shocking videos on You Tube that are extremely informative.
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At the time of publishing this page, (10-1-23) all information was accurate to the best of my knowledge and research. This is a rapidly changing situation. It is very possible some circumstances may have changed.
I do predict the following changes. I think the number of detransitioners will significantly increase. And I bet the number of lawsuits against doctors and medical treatment providers for doing transitions before patients are properly counseled, informed and advised will also increase significantly.
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